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Sexual Fantasies

Sexual fantasies are common. The content of our fantasies revolves around situations, items, or characteristics we find arousing, and can inspire scenarios ranging from the mundane to the bizarre.

Not everyone understands their own sexual needs and desires, and may be surprised or even repulsed by their own fantasies, especially if they have been taught to believe that fantasising is unhealthy or wrong. The taboos surrounding these subjects have facilitated a great number of misconceptions and prejudices.

People can have very different feelings about their preferences and desires, especially desires that are unusual or controversial. Some hide or suppress them all their lives, others choose to embrace and enjoy them, often seeking out like-minded people, even entire communities that share the same kinks.


There are a number of themes that are common to the sexual fantasies of many people. This suggests that there must be some aspects of human biology and social evolution that consistently produce certain sexual needs. A lot of people fantasise about things they may never want to do in real life, such as cheating, or having sex with multiple partners. Same sex fantasies are also fairly widespread, as are fantasies about the unattainable and the humiliating.

Many people worry that their fantasies imply harmful intent or a lack of morals. For the overwhelming majority, this is not the case. Anything can pop into your mind, but you choose which thoughts you identify with.


Sexual fantasies can be used to spark desire in the bedroom, but bringing them up with your partner isn’t easy, especially if you’ve never talked about sexual fantasies before. You might lead into the conversation by asking your partner if they’ve ever wanted to try something in particular—they will likely respond in turn.

What other common fantasies are there? What is the difference between a fantasy and a fetish? Read more about Sexual Fantasies here.

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