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Staying Safe in the Dating World

Unfortunately, the dating world isn’t a safe place. Taking precautions is necessary, even if genuinely dangerous situations seem unlikely. Here are some things to keep in mind.

If you have agreed to meet someone in person for the first time, keep in mind that no matter how trustworthy they seem online, your instincts might give you very different signals when interacting in person.

Confirm that you and your date are aware and in agreement of each other’s expectations. People are often hesitant to communicate their needs and concerns (especially if they want to impress someone), but it is paramount that you avoid misunderstandings, especially if you might become intimately involved.

If your intuition is telling you that something is wrong, don’t ignore it, even if you can’t figure out why. Gut feelings are often reactions to information we’ve picked up subconsciously.

If you’re with someone who’s being controlling or threatening, or if you have been approached by someone who can’t keep their hands to themselves, remember that you can ask for help. An experienced bar staff will be familiar with signs of trouble, and will likely recognise that you’re being harassed, but there are several ways of asking for help if they don’t respond on their own:

  • Tell a member of staff or security guard directly.
  • Ask for “Angela” or an Angel Shot at the bar.
  • Make eye contact with a member of staff and shake your head slightly.

If you are unable to signal your distress to the bar staff, you can pretend that a nearby stranger is an old friend, greeting them enthusiastically. This is also code for “please help”.

What precautions should you take when walking home alone at night? How to behave during a confrontation? Read more about Staying Safe in the Dating World here.

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